ORANGE TIP: Walk with Kids
When we talk about the ‘Walks’ at Crosslife – Walking with God, Walking with Each Other, Walking with the World, Walk with Me – it helps us to focus on what’s important and to remind us that we need each of these areas of relationship to be healthy.
When it comes to our kids, again, each of these areas are important. It is our responsibility as parents to facilitate our children in each walk.
One slight change of emphasis though, could be helpful. This change reflects what we all know but often forget. Kids copy us.
It is relatively easy to tell kids to do this or that – and often they will do it.
It is even easier for us to ask, demand or hope that someone else (teachers, pastors, youth leaders or our fellow parents) will tell ‘the kids’, sometimes even our own kids, what to do – and hopefully make them do what we want them to do. That way we don’t need to be ‘the bad guy’, deal with the conflict or admit that the reality of what’s going on may not actually suit our view of the situation.
Too often we resort to telling – or telling someone else to tell.
What if, particularly with kids, we occasionally thought of the ‘Walk with Me’ aspect of discipling, mentoring and training as being less about telling and more about showing.
What if we thought of it as ‘Walk Like Me’.
Whether we are in a structured ‘Walk With Me’ relationship or not, we can be – and in fact are, whether we are aware of it or not – investing in our young people, in their discipling, in their training, in their growth. If we don’t like what we see in them, we had better take a good look at ourselves.
Thinking in this way forces us to take responsibility for our own stuff – look for the plank in our own eye – rather than simply noticing what ‘the kids’ are doing wrong and telling them off – or telling someone else to tell them off!
Next time you notice a kid doing something you don’t like – or not doing something you want them to do – take a quick audit of what they see you doing, how they see you doing it, and if you, like me, are tempted to blame someone, something, anything else, don’t be surprised to see kids do that too – Just like us!
If we all make a commitment to be the example of what we want to see in our kids, if we realise that our own and other kids will ‘walk like me’, we will all be taking healthy responsibility for discipling and training our kids as a church family.
What is ‘Orange’? Orange is a visual reminder that to help our kids follow Jesus the church and families need to work together.
If RED represents the love and heart of families for their kids…
And YELLOW represents the light that the church should be in the world…
Then ORANGE is when we come together, work together and guide our children together.
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